Myspace deleted me. I’m obviously unhappy about that. It was over a year’s worth of blogs and pictures and comments that are just *poof* gone without warning, like when your hard drive crashes. There were some blogs on there from the original blog that were never posted on CatalinaLoves.com. It is fortuitous, however, that I grabbed my first blog post ever before it was deleted. What I don’t understand is why it happened. I was very careful about censoring comments and photos so that there were no (God Forbid) nipples or genitals. So I have a new Myspace profile. Please make friends with me. I’m a friendly soul.
So why is it that as a society we censor sexuality, but not violence. I am one of the few parents I know who allow my 14-year-old daughter to watch R-rated movies as long as they are not R-rated because of violence. It’s difficult to raise a sexually empowered girl in a responsible way. On the one hand, you don’t want to oversexualize their world and on the other hand, you don’t want them getting the message that sex is wrong or bad. So how do you deal with that?
In my house, we’re pretty open about sexuality. It’s not a secret to our daughter that her father and mother are sexual creatures, yet it’s not in her face. She does think it’s gross that we have “grown-up naps” in the afternoon and I’m sure she’s found my stash of sex toys (not all of them) - my Hitachi is always next to the bed and there is a drawer in my nightstand full of good stuff. She’s never said anything, but we’ve never really expected her to. We’ve never said anything. It doesn’t need to be overtly stated.
One way that I *have* found to create a sex-positive foundation for my daughter is to accidentally leave books in the bathroom. The latest is called Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide To Masturbation. I’m reviewing it for CatalinaLoves.com. I can remember as a child sneaking into my Mom’s room to read The Joy of Sex and feeling so dirty and guilty for it. I don’t think that’s a healthy foundation for kids. Just to be clear - I’m not advocating leaving your pr0n around for the kids - obviously you have to be selective about the books you accidentally leave behind.
So back to Myspace. I’m not sure what it was that I said or did that got me deleted. I understand that their policy is that 14-year-old children are on Myspace and so keep it clean. I also understand that my profile was only available to members over 18 and also I had a block on messages from users under 18. My profile was set to private. My photos were set to friends only. In theory, if their stopgap system worked, there are no children looking at my profile, photos, or blog.
You’ll never stop kids from seeing pr0n on the internet. It will never happen. I think it’s silly even that people have adult content warnings on their blogs. It makes me wonder if any child in the entire world has ever clicked the I’m under 18, get me out of here button. I have a theory that it just encourages kids to look, the taboo of it all.
I think Myspace is making a big mistake by alienating its adult base. I am not going to put too much effort into Myspace now, knowing that it could just disappear overnight. I am going to sign up with FetLife.com and MyDungeonSpace.com. I have a feeling that my days at Myspace might be over.
What do you think about these things? I’m interested to know.
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it’s really odd? i almost feel like they are targeting a certain niche as u will, because everyone i know that has gotten deleted is into the sex/adult industry… i don’t see them deleting the maxim model type girls for the string thongs they wear?
or maybe i am just not close friends with that group of people… just seems like a lot of bdsm and adult people have been deleted lately.
i have had my myspace for over 4 years and if it were to be deleted, i don’t know what i would do. so many emails and memories. makes me think i should probably start backing stuff up now.
:(
Hi there! It’s so nice to see you here! And I get so giddy when people send email or leave comments!!! (especially when those people are hot women in hot shoes!)
i had my myspace for two years and it was heartbreaking to let go of all those past emails. i have really grown detached now from myspace. i have a profile. i check it daily, but i am not putting any real effort into it and i tell people who want to talk to email me because i don’t want to have all my emails suddenly deleted again.
ok, so here’s my plug for FetLife.com. For months my blogging friends tried to talk me into joining. I got invitation after invitation and ignored them. after this Myspace censorship bullshit i signed up with FetLife.com and I am smitten! It is such a magnificent little corner of the internet.
..and why *don’t* those maxim model types get deleted? often their profiles are visually filthier than “ours” are. i was never obscene with photos. grrrrrrrrr.
Come back soon :)
Catalina
Oh, and if you’re reading … and you care… I stopped once I found FetLife, so I didn’t create a MyDungeonSpace profile. I still haven’t gone there…
hahaha. ok i will have to check it out. i love anything that can tear me away from myspace but it looks like i’ll be backing up my letters tomorrow.
i don’t know why those girls don’t get deleted! as far as i know… ONE of my maxim girlfriends got deleted but knew tom so she got her myspace put back up with all the info and stuff still on it.
hmmf.
I guess if you suck Tom’s cock you can stay. I don’t like Myspace.com enough to suck Tom’s cock. Ever. Tom should suck mine! :)
it is nice to have the foresight to back up your letters… I wish I had!
xo,
Catalina
Sorry to hear about mySpace but welcome to FetLife! :-)
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