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Having friends outside of the sex industry circle is kind of odd.  Either you can’t be yourself or you can be yourself, but then that aspect of you consumes the entire friendship.  Case in point - many of my “friends” have no idea that I am Catalina - a professional sex writer with a PR firm for fetish professionals.  They just think I’m a stay-at-home Mom who goes to soccer games.  They are the wives of my clients.  That’s not real friendship though.  We can’t really share in the the intimacy that friendship requires for me.  We can discuss the children and that’s about it.  As though our existence as (sexual) women is gone.  That is until the alcohol comes out.  I’ve been with these same women after they’ve had a few bottles of wine and they are just as filthy and nasty as Catalina.  It’s just not proper and becoming of a good Southern Belle to talk about it under normal conditions.

I also have friends who aren’t in the industry, but know that I am Catalina.  They know me primarily as my mom, wife, teacher self, but also know that I have a secret side.  In general, they are more interested in hearing about what Mz. Berlin is really like, what it’s like to shoot porn, and how I managed to make friends with these people than how my life is going.  In other words, I feel that I’m just a conduit to a taboo world they aren’t a part of, but wish they were.  I don’t discuss much of my life as Catalina with them.  My standard answer when people ask me questions about what I’ve been up to is, “Stuff and Things” (that’s why you’ll see that as my default journal category on this site).

My truest friends are in the sex industry in some fashion.  Photographers, models, actresses, producers, webmasters, sex workers, graphic designers, submissives, and affiliate managers (like Mario at Stockroom - I love you, Mario!) Our conversations are often about sex and such, since that is our obvious common interest, but that’s not all we talk about.  There’s more to it.  We talk about real stuff.  Important things.  Relationships.  Ideas.  Politics.  Life.  Love.  Money.  Goals.  Racism.  Abuse.  Addiction.  Feminism.  Parenting.  …  These friends and I discuss the important stuff.  They are the only ones who truly know Catalina and her alter ego.

What’s the point of this post?  I’m on Valium still for my shoulder, but I think it’s that sometimes people have expectations on both sides of my friendship equation that are out of balance.  My soccer mom friends would think I’m a sinning whore unworthy of having children, while my friends who are hip to it think that my life is Sex in the City glamorous.  The reality lies somewhere in the middle.  After discussing her latest CBT scene with my friend, January Seraph, we then talked about the health status of her boyfriend’s lungfish and I sent her an extreme CBT image I had on my camera and she said, “LOL, Can I use that on …com?”

And That is why I love being Cataina (Most Of The Time).  That and the fact that I get to talk to people that I once dreamed of talking to on a peer-to-peer level.

I have given my share of hand jobs. I think at this point I could safely even call myself an expert at giving a hand job.

My secrets are:

• Take off your jewelry, your rings and your bracelet or watch. You don’t want to scratch the most sensitive of his parts.
• Use a good lube. I highly recommend using the JO System Lube.
• Ask him to touch himself for a while first and observe how he touches himself. If you’re lucky, you don’t have to ask - he’s the type of guy who has no problem reaching down to stroke his own cock and you can just lie your head on his tummy and watch. Notice where he places his thumb and how he wraps his fingers. Does he hold his cock firmly or gently? Does he twist his hand or just slide it up and down? He knows how he likes to be touched, he’s been doing it for most of his life, so take notice.
• Explore his cock with your fingers. Close your eyes and let your fingers do the walking, so to speak. Respond to his feedback with more or less pressure and/or more or less speed. Don’t be afraid to try new things.
• Use both hands. Nothing like the feeling of the neverending pussy, is what I’ve heard. One hand over the other over the other and so on. You’ll want lots of lube for a nice experience.
• When you’re not using both hands, use both hands. What I mean is, even if you’re not doing a two handed stroke on your mate, use your “free” hand to stroke his balls or gentle rub his ass with the tip of your finger. If he’s really adventurous, you can slide a well-lubed finger in and give his prostate a little tickle. If he responds positively that, keep doing it! The end result will be a very intense orgasm.

And if you’re really interested in learning some new techniques to try out on your Man, take a look at this website. It’s really neat. They have video demonstrations of different ways to stroke a man’s cock. I have it bookmarked!

I am a sex authority, a sexy blog writer, and a crazy good lover. One thing I’ve learned over the years is that I love accessories. I have quite a few. It’s taken me a while to find the best of the best. So here are a few of my favorite things, from my favorite place to buy them: JT’s Stockroom. Their customer service is over the top good. You can buy your stuff anywhere - throw a rock at Google and you’ll hit an online adult store. Go with Stockroom, though, and you won’t be disappointed. Other places can be sketch, but take it from me - Stockroom has always pleased me like a good little slave.

So here are my favorite things:

The Vibrating Feeldoe
The Aneros Prostate Massager
Bondage Tape
The Ophelia Corset
Spanking Skirt
Deluxe Stainless Steel/Leather Collar

So get out your credit card and do some Christmas shopping for your favorite lover. It’s just around the corner, and it can be so painless and easy if you just listen to me.