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It’s official. Marky D. Sade and I have accepted a proposal to work with Fetlife.com as their marketing department. We are actively seeking new relationships with companies, large and small, who are interested in advertising their products or events on the best fetish social networking site. What makes Fetlife.com the best adult, fetish, kinky, social networking site on the internet? Well, take a minute to read what Jane’s Guide had to say about it:

Take a moment and imagine a leather Facebook or Myspace, and then imagine it being run by and for kinky folks. That is exactly what Fetlife is! It is the coolest new community site out there for pervs, and it is absolutely 100% free. I had been hearing the buzz about this new spot on the web from a few of my lifestyle friends, and I finally decided to go set up an account and take a look myself. Many years ago I had been on other sites that promised community and allowed free communication, but since those sites have sold to other companies their soul has left the building and communication costs money. It is also communication that is no longer under the nurturing ownership of perverts with a personal interest in our tribe. I’d lost interest, and so had most of my friends. I was hoping that this site could be some of what I was missing on the old ones. Wow, I wasn’t disappointed! I immediately ran into some of my old friends, and then ran off to recruit new ones. It is easy to sign up. Once you have, then you set up a profile. You can add pics to it, and you’ll never run into that “you have to have such and such membership” to view pics or show them to others. There are social groups here with ongoing forum conversations, so you can sign up for topics that interest you (or create your own groups). There is a mail system that acts like a personal bulletin board for private conversations, so you don’t lose track of what has been said to anyone. You can post writing, see what your friends are doing, and a lot more. A lot of talented pervs are posting writing and engaging in conversation here. I’ve met a lot of new friends. There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way. You can write to the folks that run the site, and they will actually write you back. I’ve been in love with this place and raving about it for the last several weeks. This is one of the few sites that didn’t ask for review. I sought out the owner and asked him if I could post one. It is that good. I feel like I’m giving you guys an early Christmas gift. Go check it out! This is the next big kinky community site! They are going to be huge, and they will stay huge as long as they keep the spirit that they have now. - Vamp

To highlight: “There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way.” and “This is the next big kinky community site! They are going to be huge, and they will continue to stay huge…”

We couldn’t be more proud! It’s all true, too. One thing we love about being a part of the Fetlife team is that we are able to work with you, one-on-one, through each step of the way to get your ad placed in just the right spot. You can advertise broadly across the entire network, or we can target by location (country or state) and by gender (M,F,MtF,FtM and or GQ), thereby optimizing your advertising money by targeting your market, the kinksters who are looking for your company or product!

We only display three ads per page, all static and nicely placed in the F-zone. You’re not competing for attention. People will and do see them, but as Vamp pointed out in her review, they aren’t obnoxious and annoying. We’ll keep it that way! We want to continue to build Fetlife the way it was intended - by (real) Kinksters for (real) Kinksters!

For more information on advertising on Fetlife.com, please contact us at mark@fetlife.com or catalina@fetlife.com. And feel free to grab that banner up above and link it from your site to Fetlife.com. :)

Lochai "working" at Hogtied.com

SAN FRANCISCO (August 22, 2008) – Award-winning fine art bondage photographer Lochai will take over from Matt Williams as director of Kink.com’s Hogtied.com, the company announced today.

“Hogtied was our first site and we still consider it our flagship,” said Kink.com founder and CEO Peter Acworth. “We’re very pleased to bring Lochai on to continue the Hogtied tradition. He’s one of the best-known bondage riggers around and for years he’s been out there in the community, both as a photographer and as an educator. Most importantly, he really gets what’s fun and beautiful and hot about women in bondage – he understands the Kink.com esthetic. I’m very much looking forward to working with him.”

Lochai’s inaugural update on Hogtied.com is a sizzling 56-minute scene with 22-year-old Virginian beauty Isobel Wren. Shot when Lochai was auditioning for his new role, the scene currently headlines the site, In it, Wren is placed in Lochai’s trademark Japanese-influenced rope bondage and subjected to a stunning number of screaming orgasms, including a copious squirt. Throughout, Lochai’s sardonic humor tempers the intense bondage and stimulation.

Said Lochai:

“Everything that’s done in any of the Kink.com sites is real, so it’s not like I’m acting a part. I’m actually being myself. I’m sarcastic, I’m a smart ass, I laugh during scenes and I also console when someone’s upset. I’m going to be doing my real play, my real life, within the walls of the Armory, because that’s what’s expected by the customers — and that’s what’s expected by Kink.com. I’m going to be super comfortable there, because I feel like I’m home.”

An award winning photographer whose work appears in galleries as well as in publications like The British Journal of Photography, Secret, Skin Two, Bizarre, and in his own fine art books, Lochai is equally well known as a bondage educator, teaching classes at conferences around the United States and doing public scenes in nightclubs and at fetish events. A founding director of the Photo Artisans Guild (PAG), in West Palm Beach Florida, he was also the co-founder and co-curator of the Traveling Erotic Art Show, which spent two years touring the United States. He also moderates a group on BDSM social networking site FetLife, CommUNITY Building, that seeks to build BDSM and alternative sexuality leadership skills.

Lochai takes over from longtime Hogtied.com director Matt Williams, who began directing the site in 2003. Williams was recently promoted to Kink.com’s Creative Director, and will be guiding creative development on new sites as well as Kink.com’s existing sites. “I’m looking forward to helping with the overall creative level,” said Williams. “I’m going to work with existing sites and new sites both, developing the look and feel, and sharing fantasies that I have in my head — I have great ideas for each one of our sites.”

Williams will continue to direct unscripted girl-girl erotic wrestling site UltimateSurrender.com, which he calls “my little baby.” “I’m going to hang on to that – I have some great ideas for the future.”

Lochai expressed his excitement about his new role.

“Every person who’s ever sat down in front of me in a classroom, or who has surrounded me out in a club to watch what I’m doing, has wanted this job. They want to get paid to tie up beautiful women and get them off – and that’s my job. It’s a wonderful feeling, and an affirmation that my kink pays off.”

A longtime Florida resident, Lochai will be relocating in September to the San Francisco area. He says he’ll continue his work teaching bondage and SM lifestyle classes, both at the half-dozen conferences he traditionally attends annually, and in the San Francisco area.

For more information about Lochai, visit his site Kirinawa.com or email the Kink.com Public Relations Manager at thomas@kink.com. Webmasters interested in promoting Kink.com content, including Hogtied.com, please visit www.KinkyDollars.com or email the Kink.com affiliate manager at terry@kink.com.

ABOUT HOGTIED.COM: Hogtied was the first site in the Kink.com network, directed by founder Peter Acworth from 1997 until Matt Williams took over in 2003. Updated every Tuesday, Hogtied.com offers members more than 15,000 streaming minutes and more than 84,000 photos in over 400 episodes that feature beautiful women subjected to sexual rope bondage, erotic punishment, and repeated orgasms.

ABOUT KINK.COM: San Francisco erotica studio Kink.com provides authentic fetish entertainment that seeks to demystify alternative sexualities and inspire sexual adventurers. Since the launch of its first site, Hogtied.com, in 1997, Kink.com has developed a network of premium adult sites that now operate from studios in the San Francisco Armory, a decommissioned National Guard facility with sets ranging from stark dungeons to luxurious pieds-à-terre. Kink.com also operates a free documentary site at BehindKink.com and the leading fetish affiliate network, KinkyDollars.com.

Lolcats are from icanhascheezburger.com

A couple of crazy weeks have passed!  It’s nice to be back to normal.  W goes back to school on Monday and she’s really excited to finish out her middle school years there.  She has had to change schools several times and it would have been such a disruption to her life to have to change schools again this year and then again next year.   Her education has benefited, it’s objectively obvious when you look at her transcripts and awards.

Next year she’s likely return to public school.  It’s not really an issue of private vs. public school.  These three years are the only years she has attended private school and that was due to my faculty tuition discount.  I suspect that most parents are paranoid about public school the way that some are about stranger danger, yet if you do your homework you’ll see that your child is safer walking (alone) to and sitting in public school in NYC than they are in a lightning storm and we have lightning storms here almost daily in the summer.

Public schools in North Carolina are terribly underfunded.  One of the best things you can do as a parent of a public school student is try to have your child placed in the honors programs.  Because W will finish the year at her middle school in honors Algebra 1, Spanish I, Latin, Chemistry, and an advanced English and History curriculum she will benefit in the pubic school system.    She has her own goal of attending a private, specialized school for math and science on scholarship her last two years of high school.  She is extremely motivated to do well.

Of course, I can’t say this without mentioning how imbalanced the public school curriculum is - for a public school system it still seems to be a very have vs. have nots system.  I recognize that this is a Privilege.  I also recognize that it’s in my job description as a Mom to do everything I can to give her every advantage that I can in life, while teaching her to be grateful, compassionate, and generous.

Okay, so enough about education and parenting.  Life!

The Best Sex Bloggers is doing great - our content is top shelf, the contributors are amazing writers, and the variety isn’t found anywhere else that I know of.  Most of the admin stuff is finally done.  Our header is up and looks good, we got the image problem fixed, and now we can start adding selected contributors to the project.

I’m going to be helping Audacia Ray with some promo work on some of her new projects, so that’s pretty amazing and exciting.

I’m going to review a movie for Madison Young that she sent to me.

Rachel Kramer Bussel is sending us some books to review for Amazon.com, as well as a copy of Spanked! for us to review.  I have another of her books that I am reviewing currently, called Dirty Girls, for Seal Press.  I am actually the only person holding me back from being done with that because now that I know her RKB, I want to ask her a few questions about the book before I publish the review and I have been distracted.  I’ll have to get back on track with that.

I’m talking with Lucrezia Magazine about writing for them, though since I’m still just talking with them, I don’t have really specific things to mention.  I just thought that it’s worth mentioning.

Lelo.com contacted me and asked me to review a product of theirs, so I chose the Luna Beads.  I haven’t even had an opportunity to try them out.  Yes, I know you can’t imagine, but it’s been a weird couple of weeks.  I assure you, I’ll get to work researching them and give you my opinion.

Finally, at least for now, I’ve joined The Femme’s Guide and will post there about some specific topics with some amazing women who are collaborating on the project.  It’s a nice opportunity and I appreciate being invited to take part in it.

All of my friends are out of town this weekend.  Seriously.  M is gone for three weeks traveling in Asia, Mr. F is in Pittsburgh celebrating his birthday, Mr. Johnson is in Colombia, I dropped The Dude at the airport yesterday for his weekend away, and Nikki is at Fetcon, as are Sabrina and Melvin.  No wonder I’ve managed to get so much work done today! :)

I am overwhelmed with emotion and at a loss for words at the outpouring of support that people in our community have shown our family by donating prizes for the raffle, buying tickets, cross posting to spread the word, and the kind words that have gotten us through a very difficult time. We are proud to say that our personal need has been met and good (us, the sinners) triumphs over evil (them, the morally superior). To feed off of Graydancer’s post, we have proven that “a community proving that a community of pervs cares more about her education than an administration full of assholes.”

This means that instead of being my personal mission to fight for my daughter, I am on a bigger mission for the greater cause. I recognize that I am not the only person going through this battle. In fact, it’s a series of small battles that are all a part of a greater war on personal freedom, often with children in the crossfire.

This shouldn’t happen, but if you’re living an alternative lifestyle, it very well could happen to you. The only way to combat it is to put on the armor, link up arm-in-arm, and take them on as a commUNITY. That is exactly what I’ve seen in the last few days and I think we can do more!

The raffle continues, as it is scheduled to end on Sunday (8/17/08) at 10pm, but from this point forward, all proceeds will be going to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom as a contribution from the community that has stood together and won this battle. This is our way of supporting the war that has been waged in the land of the free against personal and sexual freedom. At the end of the year, the refunded monies will also be donated on behalf of this community.

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is a national organization committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual expression. NCSF is primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities, who often face discrimination because of their sexual expression.

My deepest gratitude to those who have supported and continue to support this cause. I have never felt such a sense of community in my entire life. So here is the current prize list for the new official National Coalition for Sexual Freedom raffle. Check back, as we seem to be adding prizes daily.

From Lochai there are three 5×7 museum signed prints from his recent exhibit at the World Erotic Art Museum, two of them are not only museum signed prints, but are also very limited editions.

Alley Bound and Curves are a limited edition of 10 museum signed prints. If you win, you will receive either 6/10 or 7/10. Beach Bound is Lochai’s iconic World’s Most Erotic Photograph winning piece, and is a signed museum print. (Sold normally at $75/print)

Ellie Lumpesse has donated three books:

The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks by Jen Sincero
Aqua Erotica by Mary Anne Mohanraj
The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue

Ellie is also offering:

a 30-minute private phone session (that can include her amazingly sexy man) if you win.

Sam donated:

custom, hand made jewelry (a necklace and earring set) to a runner up. “It’s not a kinky prize, but pretty,” she said. Pretty indeed! Take a look: http://quem98.livejournal.com/306470.html

Thursday and D donated:

a signed 8×10 print of any one of their photographs
a copy of the book, The Mammoth Book of Illustrated Erotic Women.

And Thursday has also offered:

one of her sexy (orgasmic) voicemails to a lucky winner. Let me tell you, that is one hot prize.

The writer of Between My Sheets offered:

A brand new, still in the package, never been used Silver Bullet Vibe.

And just now I heard from my Naughty Secretary who offered:

Her services as a graphic designer. There are two separate prizes - each being two hours of graphic design time (normally charged at $120/hr). In addition to participating in this raffle, she is doing her own auction to raise money. She is sponsoring a silent auction of one of her paintings on her web page.

Edward, from Exjinn.net, the company that hosts all of our blogs and provides us without outstanding support and service, has offered:

A 50 gig hosting plan from Exjinn.net with 1-year of service.

Essin’ Em:

just donated a copy of the book, Wetter, with her story signed personally for you. As if that weren’t generous enough, she has also offered an 8×10 print!

Sabrina Fox - does the name ring a bell?

Sabrina Fox, as in the redhead hot as fuck bondage and fetish model, Sabrina Fox, was chatting with me today and mentioned that she has a few pairs of latex panties that she recently wore for a photoshoot that would offer as prizes. Latex panties worn by Sabrina Fox, anyone? Oh wait until I tell W about this when she is older.

Jeff Mach commented: (THANK YOU, JEFF!) [This is one of those prizes that I would like to know if you would like to be entered to win. If you're not in the area and can't use the tickets, then they would do you no good, but if you are in that area, then it's a great prize!]

I am running a New Year’s Eve fetish event in New Jersey at the end of this year (on NYE itself). I’ll offer a ticket (that is, admission for two people, including gourmet meal and champagne)

and

I run the Wicked Winter Renaissance Faire, now entering its fourth year, every February - again, in Jersey. We’re going to three days this year, and tickets for all three days would usually be at $40; I can donate two pairs of those, as well.

I feel like George from “It’s a Wonderful Life”. Graydancer, who posted a very insightful post about the society that we live in, just twittered me (it sounds dirtier than it is) and said:

I didn’t realize you were adding prizes. Throw in an audiobook version of my novel, “Nawashi“.

Rose Fox offered a very generous and naughty prize — a very good combination for this crowd!:

I used to review DVDs for AVN, and I’m still on Vivid’s mailing list, so now I have a closet full of unopened Vivid porn DVDs. I’ve been trying to figure out how to donate them someplace and would be delighted to offer them for your cause.

There are too many to catalog, so perhaps 10 “grab bags” of ten DVD’s? I’d do my best to include a varied selection so that the winner is fairly likely to get at least a few titles that suit their tastes.

(Just a note on this: because of the laws regarding the selling of pornography, the winners would need to submit a copy of their ID to Rose in order for her to be able to send them to you.)

Beautiful Rebecca has offered:

an original piece of sensual art from the artist. It was scheduled for a gallery show next year but we would much rather have it go to your cause as it hit home. It is 3×4 metal with an object representing a uterus called, “Oikos Cella”.

Alternatively, for those who win, but don’t feel that this art is right for their home, she is an interior designer and has offered to do a consultation for a room re-do. The details are kind of extensive, so I’ll discuss it with the winner personally.

Ms. Nikki Nefarious and AlteredAperture.com) has donated prints and a rope kit:

Collette for TABU Magazine 8 x 12
Jamie in Latex 8 x 12
Girl’s Best Friend 8 x 12
Scream 8 x 10
GarGirl Bound 8 x 10
The Enforcer 8 x 10
Sarah Sealed 8 x 10
Red Hood 8 x 10

and then A Starter Rope Package (4-pack of multi-colored ropes in different lengths and hemp rope cuffs)

Lily, who calls herself Lily (the rope ho) in her comment has donated

3 x 30ft hand-dyed, processed 6mm hemp kit

Radical Vixen, who most of you know as the editor of the weekly sex blog digest, Sugasm, is a very active political advocate. She has offered two books for the raffle:

She’s on Top: Erotic Stories of Female Dominance and Male Submission
Sex and Bacon: Why I Love Things That Are Very, Very Bad For Me

Thank you, so much! I cannot tell you how moved I am by the random kindness of the community. Lochai’s the one who started the commUNITY concept, but I get it better than ever now.

I’m officially re-launching the “Catalina’s Emergency Tuition Fund Raffle” as the “The Battle Is Won, But the War is Not Over” raffle with all remaining proceeds from this point forward going to NCSF.

Here is the link to buy your virtual ticket.

Tickets are $10.00 each, you can buy as many as you’d like (if you’d like to donate $50.00, for example, I’ll enter your name 5 times). You are not obligated to buy a virtual ticket. You can also just donate to a very worthy cause at any amount.

I really will write down names and put them in a hat, and my daughter can pick the winners. At this point, she is well-aware of what is going on. We’ll choose the winners on August 17th at 10 pm. You will be notified by 10:30 pm by email. Heck, we’ll even try to find someone to film it and show it to you all :)

Buy A Raffle Ticket To Win A Limited, Edition, Museum Signed Print From Lochai

I’ve never discussed this on my blog before, but recent developments have prompted me to discuss the reason why I’m no longer a teacher. Being Catalina isn’t always a good thing. I separated early this year with my school as a peaceful way to avoid a public scandal that would ultimately affect my teenage daughter, who attended said school.

Part of my agreement I cannot legally discuss - specifically the reasons and terms of my separation - but use your imaginations. I can say that I agreed to leave quietly and peacefully under the condition that my (straight-a’s, honors courses, award-winning, athlete, without a discipline record) child be allowed to attend her last year of middle school just as if I had resigned at the end of the year. Let me spell this out for you. Faculty receive a substantial tuition discount. I pay 10% of the tuition. This roughly amounts to $1,100. After leaving, all faculty are offered one more year for their children at the faculty tuition discount as a way to avoid disrupting their children’s lives too much.

A few days ago the head of my former school called me to tell me that had rescinded his offer and that she was no longer welcome to attend. In the same phone conversation, he changed his mind and decided to honor our agreement. Well, kind of. I came in with the tuition and they refused to accept my payment.

Later I received an email that stated that on top of the faculty tuition, I am also expected to pay student fees, which are not covered under the faculty discount. Okay, so throw in another $900. I can come up with that, even if it means the car payment doesn’t get paid.

The straw that broke this camel’s back? The additional $1,000 expense account that is being demanded by the 18th of August to cover her lunch account (which was roughly $750 last year) and field trip expenses (which are roughly $250). I requested that she not be allowed to charge a lunch in the cafeteria and that she will bring her lunch, which is an option available to (other) parents, to have this fee waived. The field trip charges, I can’t really object to, that seems fair, so mental tab up to $2,200.

I’ve just been informed that the school is unwilling to waive the expense account fee for her lunch account and demands the entire amount be paid. If it is unused it will be refunded to me at the end of the year. Nice of them to at least offer that. This brings up my new grand total to $3,200 in 8 days.

I went from having her tuition paid to being a mile away.

I have never been as upset as I am right now. For a “Christian” educator to use a child as a pawn in a moral battle against me, and what I represent, is unethical - it’s beyond unethical - it’s reprehensible.

So I’ve played all of my cards, my hands are tied. He wins right now. Because I have been judged a whore, my child loses.

I refuse to allow that to happen. For the first time ever, I am asking my readers to help me. I’ve asked my readers to support the arts (artists, photographers, and other bloggers) but never asked for financial support on my blogs for myself or my family. Today that changes because my child is involved. Today I ask for your support for my daughter’s education and future.

Similar to the project I did for Lochai, I am asking for donations towards my daughter’s education fund. I spoke to Lochai this afternoon, and he has offered to donate three 5×7 museum signed prints from his recent exhibit at the World Erotic Art Museum, two of them are not only museum signed prints, but are also very limited editions.

Alley Bound and Curves are a limited edition of 10 museum signed prints. If you win, you will receive either 6/10 or 7/10. Beach Bound is Lochai’s iconic World’s Most Erotic Photograph winning piece, and is a signed museum print. (Sold normally at $75/print)

On top of Lochai’s unbelievably generous offer, several people have contacted me since posting this and asked to donate items to be raffled off as well. Now, from Ellie Lumpesse we have three books:

The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks by Jen Sincero
Aqua Erotica by Mary Anne Mohanraj
The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue

Ellie is also offering a 30-minute private phone session (that can include her amazingly sexy man) if you win.

And one of Janice’s friends left a comment in my blog that she would donate custom, hand made jewelry (a necklace and earring set) to a runner up.

“It’s not a kinky prize, but pretty,” she said. Pretty indeed! Take a look: http://quem98.livejournal.com/306470.html

Thursday and D have also offered a signed 8×10 print of any one of their photographs and a copy of the book, The Mammoth Book of Illustrated Erotic Women. And Thursday has also offered one of her sexy (orgasmic) voicemails to a lucky winner. Let me tell you, that is one hot prize.

Then I got an email from a total stranger, the writer of Between My Sheets, who offered:

A brand new, still in the package, never been used Silver Bullet Vibe.

And just now I heard from my Naughty Secretary who offered:

Her services as a graphic designer and artist. She is looking into which painting(s) she is going to donate, but she has committed to two separate prizes - each being two hours of graphic design time (normally charged at $120/hr).

Edward, from Exjinn.net, the company that hosts all of our blogs and provides us without outstanding support and service, has offered:

A 50 gig hosting plan from Exjinn.net with 1-year of service.

Thank you, so much! I cannot tell you how moved I am by the random kindness of the community. Lochai’s the one who started the commUNITY concept, but I get it better than ever now.

Essin’ Em, the pansexual feminist sexpert on her way up, just donated a copy of the book, Wetter, with her story signed personally for you. As if that weren’t generous enough, she has also offered an 8×10 print!

Sabrina Fox - does the name ring a bell?

Sabrina Fox, as in the redhead hot as fuck bondage and fetish model, Sabrina Fox, was chatting with me today and mentioned that she has a few pairs of latex panties that she recently wore for a photoshoot that would offer as prizes. Latex panties worn by Sabrina Fox, anyone? Oh wait until I tell W about this when she is older.

Jeff Mach commented: (THANK YOU, JEFF!)

Prize donations, a few: - I am running a New Year’s Eve fetish event in New Jersey at the end of this year (on NYE itself). Tickets are probably going to be something along the lines of $250 per couple - we were actually finalizing that this week. I’ll offer a ticket (that is, admission for two people, including gourmet meal and champagne) for the raffle, if you’d like.

and

I run the Wicked Winter Renaissance Faire, now entering its fourth year, every February - again, in Jersey. We’re going to three days this year, and tickets for all three days would usually be at $40; I can donate two pairs of those, as well, if it will assist you.

I feel like George from “It’s a Wonderful Life”. Graydancer, who posted a very insightful post about the society that we live in, just twittered me (it sounds dirtier than it is) and said:

I didn’t realize you were adding prizes. Throw in an audiobook version of my novel, “Nawashi“.

Thanks, Graydancer! I appreciate it! I didn’t know I was going to add prizes either, until people started offering. The outpouring of support in the various ways people have shown it is very moving. Some people can afford to show their support by purchasing a ticket, some people are supporting us by crossposting, some are offering prizes, some are doing all of the above and then some. I even consider it supportive just to see comments from people who happened upon it and have shown emotional support.

In the comments this morning, from a total stranger, Rose Fox, was this offer, which is generous and naughty — a very good combination for this crowd!:

I’m here via the person who donated the jewelry. I used to review DVDs for AVN, and I’m still on Vivid’s mailing list, so now I have a closet full of unopened Vivid porn DVDs. I’ve been trying to figure out how to donate them someplace and would be delighted to offer them for your cause.

There are too many to catalog, so perhaps 10 “grab bags” of ten DVD’s? I’d do my best to include a varied selection so that the winner is fairly likely to get at least a few titles that suit their tastes.

Thank you, Rose — I don’t know anybody, personally, who would turn down a handful of DVD’s. And you’re really giving away 10 prizes, not just one, so thank you x 10! You’re right, there’s got to be something in there that turns that key in the lock. (Just a note on this: because of the laws regarding the selling of pornography, the winners would need to submit a copy of their ID to Rose in order for her to be able to send them to you.)

Also in the comments this morning was a message from Beautiful Rebecca offering a piece of original sensual art:

I have an original piece of sensual art from the artist I live with I would like to donate. It was scheduled for a gallery show next year but we would much rather have it go to your cause as it hit home.

The List Keeps Growing! 
Please read this post on CatalinaLoves.com
to see the most recent list.  Good stuff!  I’m overwhelmed by the contributions people are making to make this raffle a big success.

I’m officially launching the “Catalina’s Emergency Tuition Fund Raffle”, here is the link to buy your virtual ticket. Tickets are $10.00 each, you can buy as many as you’d like (if you’d like to donate $50.00, for example, I’ll enter your name 5 times). I really will write down names and put them in a hat, and my daughter can pick the winners (of course I’ll come up with some vanilla reason why she’s doing it). We’ll choose the winners on August 17th at 10 pm. You will be notified by 10:15 pm.

Photography by David Lawrence

If you recall, I posted on Catalina Says a while back the Pro Photo Tours had announced their plans to tour the country, offering their unique style of photographic workshops.  They take the advanced amateur and working professional photographer through every step of a shoot, from hair and make-up to lighting to working with models to shooting and post-production.  The result of the workshop will be a fine art coffee table book that represents the participants’ body of work.

You already know Lochai, because he’s all I seem to talk about some days, but maybe you don’t know Bobby Knight as well… though I bet you’ve seen his work all over!  Bobby Knight is a successful commercial & stock photographer and cinematographer who currently has over 75,000 images and 350 hours of visual stock content in circulation in the past eight years. His enjoyment in creating avant-garde media is apparent in his successes and cutting edge style.  He has a creative mind that likes to push boundaries not only in media production using technology whenever possible to give his client that edge they seek. His work is, edgy, sometimes erotic and different than the norm.   You can find his work from cell phones to major publications (AVP, Revolver, Chopper, AVN), the internet, and television.

This weekend (August 8-10) is the first weekend you have a chance to work with Bobby Knight of Knight Digital Photography and Lochai (yes, that Lochai!).

Because of technical difficulties (grrrrrrrrrrr code!) they were not able to register participants earlier and still have available openings.  If you have the weekend free and you can be in Tampa, Catalina Says Do It! Contact Bobby Knight or Lochai directly to register for this weekend, to avoid said technical difficulties with the website.

Go to the ProPhotoTours.com website for more information and also to check out other dates and cities where you can work with these Master Photographers!

I am one of those rare lucky people who have to work 7 days a week.  Not because I work for the man, but because I work for myself.  Since I work pretty much every day, and pretty much all day every day, it’s a good thing that my definition of work includes chatting with Sabrina Fox, Priapus, and Lochai and writing interviews for Claire Adams, Sgt. Major, and Bobby Knight (ProPhotoTours.com).

Today is Lochai’s opening night at the WEAM.  It’s pretty exciting, and I wish I could be there to see it for myself.  I still can’t believe I am a genuine part of making that happen.  The best I can hope for is that he will call me when he gets home, even if it’s late, and tell me all about it.  I lucked out and got to talk with both Lochai and his amazing bride, Janice.  She’s so amazing, I can’t help but adore her every bit as much as I do him.

I spent the majority of my day working on the Week in Kink and The Good Things List.  Both were late, but I noticed that the world did not fall apart.  I’ll take note of that the next time I have terrible anxiety about not getting them done on time.  I openly kissed Graydancer’s ass in The Good Things List, because it was a deal we made on Twitter to get him on board with the bestsexbloggers.com project.  This wasn’t exactly our deal, just that I was willing to kiss his ass to make it happen, and this is the only way I know how from a distance.

I didn’t work all that much this weekend, actually - it was one of the first weekends I truly set out to socialize.  Not all of my plans worked out.  Friday I had a new workout - sprints with abs and triceps.  The Dude has decided that it’s time for me to step it up and … I can’t really disagree.  I’ve been running, but now it’s time for toning.  I came home from an intense workout and managed to go out for wine and sushi with M on Friday night and somehow three glasses of wine fucked me up.  Must have been because I was so tired.  I don’t know.    We normally eat out every Friday night, but he’s training for the NY Marathon and I’m still trying to lose weight, so sushi and liquid calories seemed more appropriate.  He had a bad week and so W baked a cake or him — I know, seems counter intuitive to give a marathon runner in training a cake, but he had to run 14 miles this weekend and the carb/sugar load helped him make it through and it cheered him up, so it served it’s purpose doubly.

Saturday I was all set to go out with The Dude for an evening of inebriation, his not mine.  He flaked out on me.  It worked out in my favor.  I fell asleep at something like 6 pm and didn’t wake up until about 11 pm, when I sat up long enough to say goodnight to Marky and went back to sleep until 9 am today.  Apparently I needed a good night’s sleep.

Now here we are again, the middle of the night - time for me to wrap it up and go to bed.  I’m frustrated as hell because I can’t get images on the static pages on bestsexbloggers.com and it better not be a template issue.  If it is, I’m lucky that JC will come to my rescue and fix it.

No graceful way out of this blog post - I’m just tired and it’s time to end.  Goodnight, people…  Oh and FetLife rocks.  It is 3:46 am.  Buenas noches.

Life is good.  In a nutshell, life is pretty good.  Friday night I went out to dinner with M, my regular Friday night dinner with a twist.  Instead of just going to my favorite restaurant in Charlotte, we went to my favorite restaurant in Charlotte with Nikki and her girl, Mia.   We ate the most delicious dinner, had some yummy martinis and went back to M’s place.  M happens to make a lot of money.  I won’t say more, there’s no need to.  But he lives in a very nice penthouse apartment in uptown Charlotte, so we went back to M’s place to chill out and do a really nice “Penthouse Bondage” shoot.  Not only did Nikki get some nice images of me, but she also tied up Mia and took some shots of her as well.  M got to watch.  That was his reward.  He got to take three beautiful women out to dinner, then watch as Ms. Nikki Nefarious tied up Catalina in his living room and then later Mia.  He did say it was a banner day for him.  I’m sure that is true.  I was excited because Nikki and Mia are the first of my friends that I’ve introduced to M.  As soon as I get some of the images, you can bet I’ll share them with you!

Let’s see, what else?  I have been working on some FetLife projects.  FetLife totally rocks and I’ve become friends with the FetLife man, John.  We are working on a project to get some new banners and code, and also to get new images of real kinksters on FetLife for the front page.  It seemed like a small project, as most of the things I do seem, but it’s become quite an event.  I have to say though, I love it.  I also started a FetLife/JohnBaku Fan Club.   I always call myself the FetLife official unofficial fan club leader, and people thought there was a real fan club, so I made one!  Join up!

I finally joined the ranks of the cool kids and signed up with Skype and Twitter.  Now you can follow me around.  I’m CatalinaLoves on both of them.  Pretty obvious.   Curvaceous Dee finally helped me set up my Google Reader.  Yes, I’m that lame that I didn’t use RSS feeds, I just jumped bookmark to bookmark.   I’ve gotten to know her quite well and I really like her a lot!

W is finally home from Oregon, so for the most part our time has been spent balancing being parents and work.  Quid Pro Quo, our PR and Marketing firm, is doing very well and we have new clients that we want to work with, so we’re excited!  It’s now a balancing act of having a home business, writing, parenting, social lives, sex lives, friends, music, smoking out, running, meditating, and at some point eating and sleeping.

I need to, in fact, quit writing this post even though there are more words in my tummy because I just also started writing for Trufetish.com and I owe them a story and a bio and all of that.  I also have bestsexbloggers.com, which isn’t even live yet that I’m working on.  Oh My!  I need a secretary, a housekeeper, a nanny, a submissive, and a personal assistant (that wants to work for free).  Know anyone?

I guess this is as good a time as any to wrap it up and move on.  There is real smut to write.  Like how I’m planning a couple of really hot group activities…  that’s a post for another blog and another day!

OMG - I can’t believe I almost forgot to mention Lochai!  One of the best parts of being Catalina is having Lochai in your cell phone and getting a text that says, “Cum for me”.

From Postsecret.com

Wow, it’s been a while, right?  Did you wonder what happened?  It was no coincidence.  I wasn’t in the hospital or even off on some amazing playfest.  In fact, part of our support of Lochai was to donate our prime real estate on our blogs through the 15th.  It was quite intentional.  But as much as I adore Lochai, and trust me, I adore Lochai every day (um yeah, he kind of figured it out), I have to write.  It’s just driving me crazy not to write every day.

So what’s been going on?  Wow, the world is melting down around me, yet things are better than ever.  Know how that is?  Like I have a friend going through a divorce, one who had to deal with her sister’s suicide attempt and also is shouldering the entire burden to now hold out hope as her cousin (who grew up as a sister) is fighting for her life at the Mayo Clinic.  Big stuff, right?  A friend I consider to be my lil’ sister was fired from her job suddenly.  She is the third of my friends to be fired suddenly and unexpectedly.  It really hits you in the gut when you don’t expect it!  Add to all of that that someone exceptionally close to me is dealing with childhood issues of abuse, emotional and sexual - it was a blessing in disguise that I didn’t post for a week so I could help my friends get through rough times.

Okay, enough of the Debbie Downer stuff.  Now the good stuff!

We couldn’t be happier that we are expecting two visitors.  It looks like an undisclosed, but very lovely friend will be coming next month to be beaten, to beat me, to be beaten again, and then maybe MDS will beat both of us and make us cum until our legs give out like the guy in the Gatorade commercial… you know the one.   While she’s here we plan to shoot with Altered Aperture, as well.  Both separately and together.  Who knows, maybe we’ll even shoot a video?  I’m also really hoping that the four of us will be able to get together with Mr. F and that she and I alone will also go for a visit over to see Mr. F.  So basically any way you can imagine having sex that weekend, we plan on it.

After that, in October, we are expecting an old friend from the past to come and visit us.  It’s not just about sex.  We love her.  She’s special to us.  We can’t wait to climb in bed together, put her between us, chill out and watch the Simpsons and just snuggle up…  but, I did tell her that I couldn’t guarantee that I wouldn’t try to fuck her and she did say, “Oh, Catalina, I’m counting on it.  Please do fuck me.”   Ok, I’ll give you a minute to process that.  Replace my name with yours and imagine it coming from one of the most beautiful women you know and happen to genuinely love.  …yeah, right?!   But wait, it gets better!  Throw Mr. F. into the picture.  What if just she and I go over to Mr. F’s house, on our knees in front of his magnificent chocolate cock and suck him off?  What if Mr. F comes over to our house and the four of us figure out all the possible combinations that four people can get each other off?  Well, really - that’s the plan.

Other news:  The site is not live yet, but we are starting a new blog project that will include the best sex bloggers I know.  Like people I can’t believe are actually wanting to put their name with mine?  Wow.  I am overwhelmed and moved all at the same time.  The amount of work in setting up a big blog where all of the best sex bloggers post in one place is very daunting.  We would be lost without the help of our Naughty Secretary, hereby known as NS.  Click on the postcard above to visit her blog! NS is the best.  I mean I love NS.  I loved her the minute I met her.  I loved her the minute I read her work.  I loved her more when I heard her voice!  She’s enchanting, and the best part of it is, she knows that she’s enchanting.  She knows every bit how sexy and smart and powerful she is, yet she has agreed to be our NS.  We have so much fun playing, texting, chatting, working, scheming, sharing secrets, and generally doing the girl stuff we would do if we were together, except for the sex.  Oh but if I had a weekend with NS…  I digress into fantasyland.  What was the point?  Oh yeah, the project.  So it’s coming along and the list of contributors is impressive.  I don’t want to give away all my secrets yet, so you’ll have to wait for the good part.  But trust me.  In my opinion, this will be our best blog project ever (and I’m pretty attached to Catalina Loves!)

Quid Pro Quo is thriving and taking in new clients.  Some of the people I’m working with on a professional level for their PR and Marketing are people that I admire.  It’s fun to do it.  I genuinely feel grateful that I enjoy my work so much.  I work a lot.  But that means that I spend my days talking to really cool people.

Well, there is so much to say…  but it is 4:23 am, and I’ve yet to sleep.  I’m going to wrap it up with this.  It’s not even a matter of insomnia.  I’m actually tired as fuck, but there was work to do.  The day was fucked up because I basically got up, went running.  I’m only 25 lbs. from my goal weight and I ran harder, faster, and farther than I’ve ever gone before.  I told my texting buddy, we work out together, that he just gave me an exercise orgasm.  Then came home and took a shower and picked W up from the airport and spent the evening with her and did a session later after she went to bed.  Sometimes there literally aren’t enough hours in the day, so you have to use them all.

With that, I’ll say night night.  It’s good to be back!

PS: Join FetLife!

Become A Patron Of The Arts!  Support Lochai!!

It’s no secret that I have a ridiculous crush on Lochai, and maybe a part of it is because I fell in love with his work as an artist.  On top of all that I got to actually meet him yesterday and put my hands on his…  prints (I know what you thought I was going to say!)

I know a lot of my readers are people who share my opinion about Lochai’s erotic and bondage images and also share my belief in supporting the art and the artists they love.  That’s what this post is all about.  Your opportunity to own real art while supporting the arts. It’s a win-win situation.

Lochai has a few gallery shows coming up.  He talks about them in the interview we did recently here. In response to my question about his upcoming gallery shows, in particular the exhibition at the World Erotic Art Museum in Miami Beach, FL, this is what he had to say:

Wow….  To hang in a Museum is an amazing thing.  To hang in this Museum is even a greater compliment in that the owner/curator, Naomi Wilzig, does not normally collect photography & has only just started to.  She has thousands of painting, sculptures and other various articles that have moved her over the years and only a few photographs including ones from a good friend of mine, BT Charles.  She has had many one person displays exhibited in the galleries in the 3 years WEAM has been open, but she asked me to be the first photographer.  I am also a local so this adds to the pride I feel.  Art gallery shows are wonderful but to say that you are displayed in a museum, for me that is something I am very proud of.  I will also have Beach Bound added to the permanent collection. I was also the first heterosexual male artist to have a special “Guest Gallery” show that lasted a year of 30 of my images in the Leather Archives & Museum in Chicago http://www.leatherarchives.org/ which just came down in May.

So now here we are, it’s almost time for Lochai’s big show and now it’s time for me to get involved in the only way I know how.  I’m holding my own Lochai Pledge Drive to help support Lochai’s upcoming gallery projects.  He has never done this before and he may never do this again, it’s truly exclusive (and it will give your grandkids something to bring onto The Antique’s Roadshow!) Think of it is the kinky version of the PBS Pledge Drive - you know, you donate some money and they give you a nice gift to say thank you.

Here’s the rundown - you donate to Lochai’s upcoming shows.  Donations are simple and easy - log into PayPal and use Lochai’s email address (nawalochai@kirinawa.com).  You can even use your credit card.  In return, as a thank-you gift, you receive one of Lochai’s signed prints.  The print you will receive will be chosen by Lochai and is from his award-winning gallery.

Donate $25 and receive a signed 4×6 print.  This is perfect to frame and put on your nightstand

Donate $50 and receive a signed 5×7 print.  This is a perfect size to have on your desk, no?

Donate $75 and receive two signed 5 x 7 prints - a nice little complimentary set for your boudoir.  I love the idea of having two complimentary, beautiful images, nicely framed and hung next to each other.  MDS says he thinks it would be neat if you’re a couple to frame them and then put one on each of your nightstands.  I love MDS.  He’s so clever!

If you donate $75 or more, Beach Bound will be one of the 2 5×7 prints… ;-)

Donate $100 and receive one signed 8×10 print - perfect to hang on the wall.  Actually Lochai gave me an 8×10 as a gift yesterday and it’s matted, framed, and perfectly placed on my desk, so an 8×10 is really a nice size - you can hang it or place it somewhere special.

For donations more generous than $100.00, please contact Lochai directly.   Those donors will be considered sponsors and will not only have their name associated with the show as a sponsor, but as a thank-you gift will receive a signed 5×7 Beach Bound, as well as a signed, limited edition print (of your choice).  Again, just contact Lochai directly to discuss this option.  He’s a very friendly man!