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August 24th, 2008 — FetLife, Fetish, Press Releases, Quid Pro Quo, Reviews, Shopping, Stuff and Things, Updates, Websites
It’s official. Marky D. Sade and I have accepted a proposal to work with Fetlife.com as their marketing department. We are actively seeking new relationships with companies, large and small, who are interested in advertising their products or events on the best fetish social networking site. What makes Fetlife.com the best adult, fetish, kinky, social networking site on the internet? Well, take a minute to read what Jane’s Guide had to say about it:
Take a moment and imagine a leather Facebook or Myspace, and then imagine it being run by and for kinky folks. That is exactly what Fetlife is! It is the coolest new community site out there for pervs, and it is absolutely 100% free. I had been hearing the buzz about this new spot on the web from a few of my lifestyle friends, and I finally decided to go set up an account and take a look myself. Many years ago I had been on other sites that promised community and allowed free communication, but since those sites have sold to other companies their soul has left the building and communication costs money. It is also communication that is no longer under the nurturing ownership of perverts with a personal interest in our tribe. I’d lost interest, and so had most of my friends. I was hoping that this site could be some of what I was missing on the old ones. Wow, I wasn’t disappointed! I immediately ran into some of my old friends, and then ran off to recruit new ones. It is easy to sign up. Once you have, then you set up a profile. You can add pics to it, and you’ll never run into that “you have to have such and such membership” to view pics or show them to others. There are social groups here with ongoing forum conversations, so you can sign up for topics that interest you (or create your own groups). There is a mail system that acts like a personal bulletin board for private conversations, so you don’t lose track of what has been said to anyone. You can post writing, see what your friends are doing, and a lot more. A lot of talented pervs are posting writing and engaging in conversation here. I’ve met a lot of new friends. There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way. You can write to the folks that run the site, and they will actually write you back. I’ve been in love with this place and raving about it for the last several weeks. This is one of the few sites that didn’t ask for review. I sought out the owner and asked him if I could post one. It is that good. I feel like I’m giving you guys an early Christmas gift. Go check it out! This is the next big kinky community site! They are going to be huge, and they will stay huge as long as they keep the spirit that they have now. - Vamp
To highlight: “There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way.” and “This is the next big kinky community site! They are going to be huge, and they will continue to stay huge…”
We couldn’t be more proud! It’s all true, too. One thing we love about being a part of the Fetlife team is that we are able to work with you, one-on-one, through each step of the way to get your ad placed in just the right spot. You can advertise broadly across the entire network, or we can target by location (country or state) and by gender (M,F,MtF,FtM and or GQ), thereby optimizing your advertising money by targeting your market, the kinksters who are looking for your company or product!
We only display three ads per page, all static and nicely placed in the F-zone. You’re not competing for attention. People will and do see them, but as Vamp pointed out in her review, they aren’t obnoxious and annoying. We’ll keep it that way! We want to continue to build Fetlife the way it was intended - by (real) Kinksters for (real) Kinksters!
For more information on advertising on Fetlife.com, please contact us at mark@fetlife.com or catalina@fetlife.com. And feel free to grab that banner up above and link it from your site to Fetlife.com. :)
August 22nd, 2008 — Affiliate Programs, Bondage, Domination, FetLife, Fetish, Hogtied, Lochai, Movies, Press Releases, Quid Pro Quo, Shibari, Submission, Updates, Websites

Lochai "working" at Hogtied.com
SAN FRANCISCO (August 22, 2008) – Award-winning fine art bondage photographer Lochai will take over from Matt Williams as director of Kink.com’s Hogtied.com, the company announced today.
“Hogtied was our first site and we still consider it our flagship,” said Kink.com founder and CEO Peter Acworth. “We’re very pleased to bring Lochai on to continue the Hogtied tradition. He’s one of the best-known bondage riggers around and for years he’s been out there in the community, both as a photographer and as an educator. Most importantly, he really gets what’s fun and beautiful and hot about women in bondage – he understands the Kink.com esthetic. I’m very much looking forward to working with him.”
Lochai’s inaugural update on Hogtied.com is a sizzling 56-minute scene with 22-year-old Virginian beauty Isobel Wren. Shot when Lochai was auditioning for his new role, the scene currently headlines the site, In it, Wren is placed in Lochai’s trademark Japanese-influenced rope bondage and subjected to a stunning number of screaming orgasms, including a copious squirt. Throughout, Lochai’s sardonic humor tempers the intense bondage and stimulation.
Said Lochai:
“Everything that’s done in any of the Kink.com sites is real, so it’s not like I’m acting a part. I’m actually being myself. I’m sarcastic, I’m a smart ass, I laugh during scenes and I also console when someone’s upset. I’m going to be doing my real play, my real life, within the walls of the Armory, because that’s what’s expected by the customers — and that’s what’s expected by Kink.com. I’m going to be super comfortable there, because I feel like I’m home.”
An award winning photographer whose work appears in galleries as well as in publications like The British Journal of Photography, Secret, Skin Two, Bizarre, and in his own fine art books, Lochai is equally well known as a bondage educator, teaching classes at conferences around the United States and doing public scenes in nightclubs and at fetish events. A founding director of the Photo Artisans Guild (PAG), in West Palm Beach Florida, he was also the co-founder and co-curator of the Traveling Erotic Art Show, which spent two years touring the United States. He also moderates a group on BDSM social networking site FetLife, CommUNITY Building, that seeks to build BDSM and alternative sexuality leadership skills.
Lochai takes over from longtime Hogtied.com director Matt Williams, who began directing the site in 2003. Williams was recently promoted to Kink.com’s Creative Director, and will be guiding creative development on new sites as well as Kink.com’s existing sites. “I’m looking forward to helping with the overall creative level,” said Williams. “I’m going to work with existing sites and new sites both, developing the look and feel, and sharing fantasies that I have in my head — I have great ideas for each one of our sites.”
Williams will continue to direct unscripted girl-girl erotic wrestling site UltimateSurrender.com, which he calls “my little baby.” “I’m going to hang on to that – I have some great ideas for the future.”
Lochai expressed his excitement about his new role.
“Every person who’s ever sat down in front of me in a classroom, or who has surrounded me out in a club to watch what I’m doing, has wanted this job. They want to get paid to tie up beautiful women and get them off – and that’s my job. It’s a wonderful feeling, and an affirmation that my kink pays off.”
A longtime Florida resident, Lochai will be relocating in September to the San Francisco area. He says he’ll continue his work teaching bondage and SM lifestyle classes, both at the half-dozen conferences he traditionally attends annually, and in the San Francisco area.
For more information about Lochai, visit his site Kirinawa.com or email the Kink.com Public Relations Manager at thomas@kink.com. Webmasters interested in promoting Kink.com content, including Hogtied.com, please visit www.KinkyDollars.com or email the Kink.com affiliate manager at terry@kink.com.
ABOUT HOGTIED.COM: Hogtied was the first site in the Kink.com network, directed by founder Peter Acworth from 1997 until Matt Williams took over in 2003. Updated every Tuesday, Hogtied.com offers members more than 15,000 streaming minutes and more than 84,000 photos in over 400 episodes that feature beautiful women subjected to sexual rope bondage, erotic punishment, and repeated orgasms.
ABOUT KINK.COM: San Francisco erotica studio Kink.com provides authentic fetish entertainment that seeks to demystify alternative sexualities and inspire sexual adventurers. Since the launch of its first site, Hogtied.com, in 1997, Kink.com has developed a network of premium adult sites that now operate from studios in the San Francisco Armory, a decommissioned National Guard facility with sets ranging from stark dungeons to luxurious pieds-à-terre. Kink.com also operates a free documentary site at BehindKink.com and the leading fetish affiliate network, KinkyDollars.com.
August 21st, 2008 — Blogs, Bondage, Books, FetLife, Hogtied, Lochai, Movies, Quid Pro Quo, Recommendations, Reviews, Shibari, Spanking, Stuff and Things, Websites, Weight Loss

Postsecret.com every Sunday!
Life is very busy and I’m not sure how much I’ll get a chance to write. This is truthfully one of my favorite blogs to write because it’s just the one where I get to sit down and say ” blah “. What comes out comes out.
Today we officially became the marketing department for FetLife.com, which is exciting! Marky is really the genius at it. I talk to people. I’m good at networking. He’s good at actually making the deals in the dunes. Between the two of us we’re a great team. We think in such different ways that what seems obvious to me wasn’t to him and vice-versa. You can advertise through FetLife.com by contacting me (catalina@fetlife.com) or Mark (mark@fetlife.com).
Also big announcement today from Lochai. He was offered and has accepted the position at Kink.com as the new webmaster/director of Hogtied.com. He recently went out there (to San Francisco) and did a shoot. You can watch it here. I am fortunate enough to have seen it already and I’m telling you - I adored Lochai before, but now I adore Lochai. What a yummy scene. That’s all I’m saying about it. You have to see for yourself!
Another crazy announcement in my circle: Audacia Ray is no longer writing The Naked City. I know?! What the hell are they thinking? Sometimes I wonder.
In other news - I received copies of Rachel Kramer Bussel’s books Spanked!, Tasting Her, and Tasting Him. The thing is, I think that Marky is supposed to review Tasting Her and I was to review Tasting Him, but I like both books! Being bisexual means I get to review both :) I need to get to work on reviews though, because I have a few books and movies that I need to give my opinion on - I know my opinion influences the greater society as a whole, and without it you will be paralyzed - do I buy the book or not?! What about this dildo?! What does Catalina Say?!
I can’t remember if I already mentioned this, but I’m writing now for Trufetish.com and I think this month I’m going to write about polyamory, feeding off of the two articles that are already there. I’ve been on both sides of the pond, as a couple with a girlfriend or a boyfriend and also as the girlfriend of a couple. It’s also a topic that I’ve been discussing a lot lately with close friends.
I am also writing now on The Femmes Guide. It’s an interesting thing, the Femme’s guide, “a sex-positive femme queer collaborative blog”. It was brought up the other day by the editor of the blog that we aren’t a very diverse group - that aside from one of us (me) we are all “white, fat, femmes with advanced educations.” This brings up the issue of me being an ex-fat femme. I’ve been looking for a place to write about this phenemona - the loss of an entire human being (130 lbs. so far) and how the rules have changed. The game is different. I am not quite sure how to navigate through society in this new role. I don’t want to write too much about it here yet, or else why would you bother to go there to read it, but I think it will turn into a nice article.
Well, that about covers everything I can come up with at 4 am. I’ll be back in a few hours, at it again…
August 16th, 2008 — Blogs, Books, Movies, Mr. F., Ms Nikki Nefarious, Reviews, Stuff and Things, The Dude, Toys, Updates, Websites, bestsexbloggers.com, madison young, politics

Lolcats are from icanhascheezburger.com
A couple of crazy weeks have passed! It’s nice to be back to normal. W goes back to school on Monday and she’s really excited to finish out her middle school years there. She has had to change schools several times and it would have been such a disruption to her life to have to change schools again this year and then again next year. Her education has benefited, it’s objectively obvious when you look at her transcripts and awards.
Next year she’s likely return to public school. It’s not really an issue of private vs. public school. These three years are the only years she has attended private school and that was due to my faculty tuition discount. I suspect that most parents are paranoid about public school the way that some are about stranger danger, yet if you do your homework you’ll see that your child is safer walking (alone) to and sitting in public school in NYC than they are in a lightning storm and we have lightning storms here almost daily in the summer.
Public schools in North Carolina are terribly underfunded. One of the best things you can do as a parent of a public school student is try to have your child placed in the honors programs. Because W will finish the year at her middle school in honors Algebra 1, Spanish I, Latin, Chemistry, and an advanced English and History curriculum she will benefit in the pubic school system. She has her own goal of attending a private, specialized school for math and science on scholarship her last two years of high school. She is extremely motivated to do well.
Of course, I can’t say this without mentioning how imbalanced the public school curriculum is - for a public school system it still seems to be a very have vs. have nots system. I recognize that this is a Privilege. I also recognize that it’s in my job description as a Mom to do everything I can to give her every advantage that I can in life, while teaching her to be grateful, compassionate, and generous.
Okay, so enough about education and parenting. Life!
The Best Sex Bloggers is doing great - our content is top shelf, the contributors are amazing writers, and the variety isn’t found anywhere else that I know of. Most of the admin stuff is finally done. Our header is up and looks good, we got the image problem fixed, and now we can start adding selected contributors to the project.
I’m going to be helping Audacia Ray with some promo work on some of her new projects, so that’s pretty amazing and exciting.
I’m going to review a movie for Madison Young that she sent to me.
Rachel Kramer Bussel is sending us some books to review for Amazon.com, as well as a copy of Spanked! for us to review. I have another of her books that I am reviewing currently, called Dirty Girls, for Seal Press. I am actually the only person holding me back from being done with that because now that I know her RKB, I want to ask her a few questions about the book before I publish the review and I have been distracted. I’ll have to get back on track with that.
I’m talking with Lucrezia Magazine about writing for them, though since I’m still just talking with them, I don’t have really specific things to mention. I just thought that it’s worth mentioning.
Lelo.com contacted me and asked me to review a product of theirs, so I chose the Luna Beads. I haven’t even had an opportunity to try them out. Yes, I know you can’t imagine, but it’s been a weird couple of weeks. I assure you, I’ll get to work researching them and give you my opinion.
Finally, at least for now, I’ve joined The Femme’s Guide and will post there about some specific topics with some amazing women who are collaborating on the project. It’s a nice opportunity and I appreciate being invited to take part in it.
All of my friends are out of town this weekend. Seriously. M is gone for three weeks traveling in Asia, Mr. F is in Pittsburgh celebrating his birthday, Mr. Johnson is in Colombia, I dropped The Dude at the airport yesterday for his weekend away, and Nikki is at Fetcon, as are Sabrina and Melvin. No wonder I’ve managed to get so much work done today! :)
August 13th, 2008 — Altered Aperture, Blogs, Bondage, Books, Claire Adams, Ellie Lumpesse, Fetish, Graydancer, Lochai, Ms Nikki Nefarious, My Naughty Secretary, NCSF, Photos, Shibari, Shopping, Stuff and Things, Toys, Updates, Websites, fundraising, politics

I am overwhelmed with emotion and at a loss for words at the outpouring of support that people in our community have shown our family by donating prizes for the raffle, buying tickets, cross posting to spread the word, and the kind words that have gotten us through a very difficult time. We are proud to say that our personal need has been met and good (us, the sinners) triumphs over evil (them, the morally superior). To feed off of Graydancer’s post, we have proven that “a community proving that a community of pervs cares more about her education than an administration full of assholes.”
This means that instead of being my personal mission to fight for my daughter, I am on a bigger mission for the greater cause. I recognize that I am not the only person going through this battle. In fact, it’s a series of small battles that are all a part of a greater war on personal freedom, often with children in the crossfire.
This shouldn’t happen, but if you’re living an alternative lifestyle, it very well could happen to you. The only way to combat it is to put on the armor, link up arm-in-arm, and take them on as a commUNITY. That is exactly what I’ve seen in the last few days and I think we can do more!
The raffle continues, as it is scheduled to end on Sunday (8/17/08) at 10pm, but from this point forward, all proceeds will be going to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom as a contribution from the community that has stood together and won this battle. This is our way of supporting the war that has been waged in the land of the free against personal and sexual freedom. At the end of the year, the refunded monies will also be donated on behalf of this community.
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is a national organization committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual expression. NCSF is primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities, who often face discrimination because of their sexual expression.
My deepest gratitude to those who have supported and continue to support this cause. I have never felt such a sense of community in my entire life. So here is the current prize list for the new official National Coalition for Sexual Freedom raffle. Check back, as we seem to be adding prizes daily.
From Lochai there are three 5×7 museum signed prints from his recent exhibit at the World Erotic Art Museum, two of them are not only museum signed prints, but are also very limited editions.
Alley Bound and Curves are a limited edition of 10 museum signed prints. If you win, you will receive either 6/10 or 7/10. Beach Bound is Lochai’s iconic World’s Most Erotic Photograph winning piece, and is a signed museum print. (Sold normally at $75/print)
Ellie Lumpesse has donated three books:
The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks by Jen Sincero
Aqua Erotica by Mary Anne Mohanraj
The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue
Ellie is also offering:
a 30-minute private phone session (that can include her amazingly sexy man) if you win.
Sam donated:
custom, hand made jewelry (a necklace and earring set) to a runner up. “It’s not a kinky prize, but pretty,” she said. Pretty indeed! Take a look: http://quem98.livejournal.com/306470.html
Thursday and D donated:
a signed 8×10 print of any one of their photographs
a copy of the book, The Mammoth Book of Illustrated Erotic Women.
And Thursday has also offered:
one of her sexy (orgasmic) voicemails to a lucky winner. Let me tell you, that is one hot prize.
The writer of Between My Sheets offered:
A brand new, still in the package, never been used Silver Bullet Vibe.
And just now I heard from my Naughty Secretary who offered:
Her services as a graphic designer. There are two separate prizes - each being two hours of graphic design time (normally charged at $120/hr). In addition to participating in this raffle, she is doing her own auction to raise money. She is sponsoring a silent auction of one of her paintings on her web page.
Edward, from Exjinn.net, the company that hosts all of our blogs and provides us without outstanding support and service, has offered:
A 50 gig hosting plan from Exjinn.net with 1-year of service.
Essin’ Em:
just donated a copy of the book, Wetter, with her story signed personally for you. As if that weren’t generous enough, she has also offered an 8×10 print!
Sabrina Fox - does the name ring a bell?
Sabrina Fox, as in the redhead hot as fuck bondage and fetish model, Sabrina Fox, was chatting with me today and mentioned that she has a few pairs of latex panties that she recently wore for a photoshoot that would offer as prizes. Latex panties worn by Sabrina Fox, anyone? Oh wait until I tell W about this when she is older.
Jeff Mach commented: (THANK YOU, JEFF!) [This is one of those prizes that I would like to know if you would like to be entered to win. If you're not in the area and can't use the tickets, then they would do you no good, but if you are in that area, then it's a great prize!]
I am running a New Year’s Eve fetish event in New Jersey at the end of this year (on NYE itself). I’ll offer a ticket (that is, admission for two people, including gourmet meal and champagne)
and
I run the Wicked Winter Renaissance Faire, now entering its fourth year, every February - again, in Jersey. We’re going to three days this year, and tickets for all three days would usually be at $40; I can donate two pairs of those, as well.
I feel like George from “It’s a Wonderful Life”. Graydancer, who posted a very insightful post about the society that we live in, just twittered me (it sounds dirtier than it is) and said:
I didn’t realize you were adding prizes. Throw in an audiobook version of my novel, “Nawashi“.
Rose Fox offered a very generous and naughty prize — a very good combination for this crowd!:
I used to review DVDs for AVN, and I’m still on Vivid’s mailing list, so now I have a closet full of unopened Vivid porn DVDs. I’ve been trying to figure out how to donate them someplace and would be delighted to offer them for your cause.
There are too many to catalog, so perhaps 10 “grab bags” of ten DVD’s? I’d do my best to include a varied selection so that the winner is fairly likely to get at least a few titles that suit their tastes.
(Just a note on this: because of the laws regarding the selling of pornography, the winners would need to submit a copy of their ID to Rose in order for her to be able to send them to you.)
Beautiful Rebecca has offered:
an original piece of sensual art from the artist. It was scheduled for a gallery show next year but we would much rather have it go to your cause as it hit home. It is 3×4 metal with an object representing a uterus called, “Oikos Cella”.
Alternatively, for those who win, but don’t feel that this art is right for their home, she is an interior designer and has offered to do a consultation for a room re-do. The details are kind of extensive, so I’ll discuss it with the winner personally.
Ms. Nikki Nefarious and AlteredAperture.com) has donated prints and a rope kit:
Collette for TABU Magazine 8 x 12
Jamie in Latex 8 x 12
Girl’s Best Friend 8 x 12
Scream 8 x 10
GarGirl Bound 8 x 10
The Enforcer 8 x 10
Sarah Sealed 8 x 10
Red Hood 8 x 10
and then A Starter Rope Package (4-pack of multi-colored ropes in different lengths and hemp rope cuffs)
Lily, who calls herself Lily (the rope ho) in her comment has donated
3 x 30ft hand-dyed, processed 6mm hemp kit
Radical Vixen, who most of you know as the editor of the weekly sex blog digest, Sugasm, is a very active political advocate. She has offered two books for the raffle:
She’s on Top: Erotic Stories of Female Dominance and Male Submission
Sex and Bacon: Why I Love Things That Are Very, Very Bad For Me
Thank you, so much! I cannot tell you how moved I am by the random kindness of the community. Lochai’s the one who started the commUNITY concept, but I get it better than ever now.
I’m officially re-launching the “Catalina’s Emergency Tuition Fund Raffle” as the “The Battle Is Won, But the War is Not Over” raffle with all remaining proceeds from this point forward going to NCSF.
Tickets are $10.00 each, you can buy as many as you’d like (if you’d like to donate $50.00, for example, I’ll enter your name 5 times). You are not obligated to buy a virtual ticket. You can also just donate to a very worthy cause at any amount.
I really will write down names and put them in a hat, and my daughter can pick the winners. At this point, she is well-aware of what is going on. We’ll choose the winners on August 17th at 10 pm. You will be notified by 10:30 pm by email. Heck, we’ll even try to find someone to film it and show it to you all :)
August 7th, 2008 — Advice, Lochai, Pro Photo Tours, Recommendations, Updates, Websites

Photography by David Lawrence
If you recall, I posted on Catalina Says a while back the Pro Photo Tours had announced their plans to tour the country, offering their unique style of photographic workshops. They take the advanced amateur and working professional photographer through every step of a shoot, from hair and make-up to lighting to working with models to shooting and post-production. The result of the workshop will be a fine art coffee table book that represents the participants’ body of work.
You already know Lochai, because he’s all I seem to talk about some days, but maybe you don’t know Bobby Knight as well… though I bet you’ve seen his work all over! Bobby Knight is a successful commercial & stock photographer and cinematographer who currently has over 75,000 images and 350 hours of visual stock content in circulation in the past eight years. His enjoyment in creating avant-garde media is apparent in his successes and cutting edge style. He has a creative mind that likes to push boundaries not only in media production using technology whenever possible to give his client that edge they seek. His work is, edgy, sometimes erotic and different than the norm. You can find his work from cell phones to major publications (AVP, Revolver, Chopper, AVN), the internet, and television.
This weekend (August 8-10) is the first weekend you have a chance to work with Bobby Knight of Knight Digital Photography and Lochai (yes, that Lochai!).
Because of technical difficulties (grrrrrrrrrrr code!) they were not able to register participants earlier and still have available openings. If you have the weekend free and you can be in Tampa, Catalina Says Do It! Contact Bobby Knight or Lochai directly to register for this weekend, to avoid said technical difficulties with the website.
Go to the ProPhotoTours.com website for more information and also to check out other dates and cities where you can work with these Master Photographers!
August 6th, 2008 — Blogs, Books, Claire Adams, Coldplay, Fetish, Interviews, Lochai, Mr. F., Reviews, Stuff and Things, The Dude, Toys, Websites, bestsexbloggers.com, madison young

Today's Lolcat Image is Specially Selected for The Dude
Yet another late night. It’s 5:21 am. I always like to keep track of what time I begin so I can see just how long I spend pondering my day. I mean I never sit here with a plan, I just start writing and then think about what I’ve been doing. See? It’s 5:32 am now and I just spent 11 minutes chatting with The Dude. I think I could be a more efficient job if it weren’t for Gchat because now it’s 5:39 am.
I spent almost all of my day doing admin stuff on BestSexBloggers.com, which is what I expected to happen on Day 2. I think we’re getting our kinks worked out. It’s coming together nicely. We are lucky that the best of the best continue to join us, writers and photographers. It’s very exciting to see my name there with theirs.
I had a really nice chat on the phone with Radical Vixen. It was, in a word, delightful.
Then I had a nice little text interchange with D.
Enjoyed a very sexy little Gchat with Mr. F, discussing our upcoming plans for a very kinky weekend. If it had worked out that I was in his neighborhood at the right time, we could have gotten together today, but… life.
While I was running errands today, Lochai called. So I’m sitting at my Cookie Friend’s house and my phone is ringing and I’m frantically trying to answer it, which is I think the first time that CF has seen me really freak out over a phone call. I’m a pretty cool Cat(alina). So out of the blue my phone is glitched, stuck, nothing I could do - couldn’t silence it, answer it, ignore it - nothing but sit and watch as Lochai’s name flickered on the screen. So I restarted my phone and called back and got voicemail. Aargh! So as I’m on the final stretch home, my phone rang again and this time it worked! As it turned out, he had just called to say Thank You. Just hearing him say it was all I needed. It means the world to me that I genuinely helped him.
I “met” Madison Young via email and I’m going to interview her and also she is sending me some DVD’s to review! I’m way excited for that! (Thanks for the introduction, Lochai!)
Lelo.com contacted me and asked me to review one of their products. I chose the Luna Beads. It seems kind of fun to have something like that to play with - and honestly, I love their vibrators, but I had to try this.
I made Twitter friends a while back with Rachel Kramer Bussel - she is the editor of Dirty Girls - the book I’m writing up for Seal Press on CatalinaLoves.com. I sent her a twit today and asked her if she’d do a short Q&A with me via email for the review and she said, “Sure!” So score one for Twitter!
And I think that pretty much brings us up to date. It’s now 6:11 am. I have to add an image, tag, and categorize my post. Let’s see how I do…
Oh, by the way - you can now email me at Catalina@BestSexBloggers.com, which is kind of cool.
Oh, and The Dude emailed a version of Coldplay’s “Swallowed In The Sea” that was done by an A Capella group that he listened to when he was in college.
Alright, it’s 6:20 am and I’m clicking publish. I think I should focus more.
August 4th, 2008 — Blogs, FetLife, Graydancer, Interviews, Lochai, Pro Photo Tours, Quid Pro Quo, Stuff and Things, The Dude, Updates, Websites, Weight Loss, bestsexbloggers.com

I am one of those rare lucky people who have to work 7 days a week. Not because I work for the man, but because I work for myself. Since I work pretty much every day, and pretty much all day every day, it’s a good thing that my definition of work includes chatting with Sabrina Fox, Priapus, and Lochai and writing interviews for Claire Adams, Sgt. Major, and Bobby Knight (ProPhotoTours.com).
Today is Lochai’s opening night at the WEAM. It’s pretty exciting, and I wish I could be there to see it for myself. I still can’t believe I am a genuine part of making that happen. The best I can hope for is that he will call me when he gets home, even if it’s late, and tell me all about it. I lucked out and got to talk with both Lochai and his amazing bride, Janice. She’s so amazing, I can’t help but adore her every bit as much as I do him.
I spent the majority of my day working on the Week in Kink and The Good Things List. Both were late, but I noticed that the world did not fall apart. I’ll take note of that the next time I have terrible anxiety about not getting them done on time. I openly kissed Graydancer’s ass in The Good Things List, because it was a deal we made on Twitter to get him on board with the bestsexbloggers.com project. This wasn’t exactly our deal, just that I was willing to kiss his ass to make it happen, and this is the only way I know how from a distance.
I didn’t work all that much this weekend, actually - it was one of the first weekends I truly set out to socialize. Not all of my plans worked out. Friday I had a new workout - sprints with abs and triceps. The Dude has decided that it’s time for me to step it up and … I can’t really disagree. I’ve been running, but now it’s time for toning. I came home from an intense workout and managed to go out for wine and sushi with M on Friday night and somehow three glasses of wine fucked me up. Must have been because I was so tired. I don’t know. We normally eat out every Friday night, but he’s training for the NY Marathon and I’m still trying to lose weight, so sushi and liquid calories seemed more appropriate. He had a bad week and so W baked a cake or him — I know, seems counter intuitive to give a marathon runner in training a cake, but he had to run 14 miles this weekend and the carb/sugar load helped him make it through and it cheered him up, so it served it’s purpose doubly.
Saturday I was all set to go out with The Dude for an evening of inebriation, his not mine. He flaked out on me. It worked out in my favor. I fell asleep at something like 6 pm and didn’t wake up until about 11 pm, when I sat up long enough to say goodnight to Marky and went back to sleep until 9 am today. Apparently I needed a good night’s sleep.
Now here we are again, the middle of the night - time for me to wrap it up and go to bed. I’m frustrated as hell because I can’t get images on the static pages on bestsexbloggers.com and it better not be a template issue. If it is, I’m lucky that JC will come to my rescue and fix it.
No graceful way out of this blog post - I’m just tired and it’s time to end. Goodnight, people… Oh and FetLife rocks. It is 3:46 am. Buenas noches.
July 29th, 2008 — Bondage, Fetish, Lochai, Press Releases, Pro Photo Tours, Quid Pro Quo, Websites

ProPhotoTours.com
Pro Photo Tours has announced new monthly tour dates beginning August 8-10th in Tampa, FL. Bobby Knight, David Lawrence, and Lochai are three professional photographers, each well known and respected within their specialty, who work together to provide workshops that were crafted specifically to meet the needs of advanced amateurs and working professional photographers.
Join master photographers in their fields of glamour, fetish, and fine art erotic photography to learn how to Shoot for the Walls and not just your computer screen. Anyone can take a pretty picture; it takes skill to produce an image that is good enough to hang on a gallery wall. This three day intensive weekend provides the knowledge base to capture and produce images that art collectors will want to hang in their homes, not just view on their monitors.
Pro Photo Tours teaches you to create the setting with stylists, rope artists, and other artistic props. You will learn how to work with models, professional and amateur, from both an artistic and business angle. You will learn their lighting set ups for the dramatic and mysterious, and give you the secrets for capturing an emotion and story in just one image. To finish the workshop you will learn their post production techniques to make it a keeper.
The resulting fine art collaborations will be published in a limited edition coffee table book, in which each participant will be represented.
This intimate workshop is hands-on, side-by-side, learning the recipe for award winning art from the chefs themselves. Visit ProPhotoTours.com to see when they will be visiting a city near you. (http://prophototours.com)
July 26th, 2008 — Altered Aperture, Blogs, Bondage, Ms Nikki Nefarious, My Naughty Secretary, Mz. Berlin, Photos, Recommendations, The Good Things List, Toys, Websites

"Catalina's Penthouse Bondage", Rigging and Photography by Ms. Nikki Nefarious
This week’s Good Things List is packed full of as many good things as I could find for you. Some are free, some are not. Everything on here I hand-picked myself and I recommend. It’s not bullshit, it’s not clever advertising, it’s just that I’m an opinionated person and I think that people should know about the good things that I find. That’s all.
A Good Blog To Read
Naughty Secretary writes a very hot blog. She is a natural born writer, it just pours out of her and what she ends up with is eloquent and perfect every single time. She caught my attention and now we are close. I consider her my Naughty Secretary, as she has taken on the position willingly. I’m not just sending you there because NS is fucking hot, nor am I sending you there just because she wrote this post about me, but it certainly didn’t hurt her case either!
A Good Dildo
I’m way into glass / pyrex dildos these days. I talked before about the Cyberglass Felicity. This time I’m recommending the Pleasure Bump. They are a really nice quality for a really nice price. I was going on and on about the Cyberglass Felicity with a friend of mine who said, ” I love that glass dildo. Most glass products are so expensive, but this one is inexpensive, yet feels like some of the higher end glass dildos.” So there you have it, two kinky women agree these dildos are the way to go!
A Good Quickie
Mz Berlin is a friend of mine, as you know. She’s sexy, she’s intelligent, she’s dorky, she’s funny, she loves Lolcats, and sensory deprivation with her Dom, The Mad Scientist. She also has a little clips store that is well worth your time. Of course you can see porn for free, duh. I’m not stupid. I know this. You can also eat for free if you want to dumpster dive. This is the equivalent of eating in the restaurant rather than digging through the scraps. Take your pick and give a click. It’s a mixture of content from her younger days and also current content that she creates herself. And as she says, “I made it just for you.”
A Good Calling Card
I really need to have new calling cards made. Badly. So does everybody I know. Lately it’s been the topic of conversation amongst my friends. When Thursday’s Child suggested Moo Cards, I instantly knew I had to pass that site along in the Good Things List this week. It is definitely where I am going to order my cards from (payday… payday…) Oh, by the way - I get nothing from them for saying this - I just think their site is very cool.
A Good Deed
Now you can do a good deed and get off at the same time! It doesn’t really get better than that. Seriously. Take a look at “Adopt a Child” by Sinless Touch. I’m not affiliated with them, but I saw a press release on AVN (Adult Video Network) recently and looked into it and it’s the real deal. It says on their site:
During checkout, you have the option to round up your purchases and donate electronic “spare change” to a charitable cause. One of the reasons that people don’t donate is because they don’t have enough time, so we have tired to make it easy for you. During your checkout you decide how much to round up your total, and the donation is included in your payment.
With your generous donations, we have committed to adopting children worldwide. We will maintain a profile of each child and their life for all to follow and see how we are all making a difference.
A Good Rigger
A rigger is a bondage artist. S/he ties knots intricately for BDSM scenes using Nawa Shibari as well as other bondage art techniques. Professional riggers are employed by companies like Kink.com and often are themselves players in the scene (take Claire Adams, for example). Some are just there to tie up the willing victim. Some are there to create bondage art for bondage art photography. Ms. Nikki Nefarious was voted the #3 Rigger in the 2008 Bondage Awards. That’s right, my Nikki, the genius behind Altered Aperture, the award winning rigger ties up Catalina all the time. How fucking lucky am I?!?! Nikki’s recent separation from Social Kink has made her more available for freelance work. Now’s your chance!
A Good Way To Distract Yourself
I might be the last one alive to have signed up already for Twitter, my profile is CatalinaLoves, but I’m now officially addicted. I even have the little Twitterfox plug in for Firefox and now I can play with all my blogger friends and fellow kinksters and perverts all day long while I’m supposed to be working! If I could figure it out, I would add a little Twitter widget to Catalina Loves, but I haven’t figured it out yet. I could also, apparently, get updates on my cell phone, but again, not quite that cool. Funny, I can tell you how to write code, but I can’t get Twitter technology to work.
Well, that’s about it - anything more and I’ll just be looking for good things. These are all good things that I’ve found, stumbled upon, or was pointed to. I’d rather have a short list of good things that are really good than a big long list of crap I hunted for on Friday night at 9:33 pm (the current time here in Charlotte, NC).
Just a little shameless self-promotion — I’d like to think that my blogs are all good things, so just a little reminder to take a peek. I also just started writing at Trufetish.com and I will contribute on the blog at Into The Attic as well. Soon all of the best sex bloggers and erotic photographers will collaborate on a very big project I am managing - so keep an ear out for news about that! And now, it’s time for my date with MDS.