A very opinionated girl
October 31st, 2008 — Audacia Ray, BestSexBloggers.com, Blogs, Bondage, Fetish, Lochai, Madison Young, Mz. Berlin, NYC, Photos, Politics, Recommendations, The Week In Kink
Photos of Rachel Kramer Bussel by HilaryMcHonePhotography.com
Catalina’s Favorite Sex Blog Posts Of The Week! Vote on Tuesday for Obama!!
::psst… for more hot sex blog links go to Sugasm.com::
October 24th, 2008 — Blogs, Email, M, NYC, Stuff and Things
Who will be the lucky one? So Tess, Diva, and I (yes, mostly Tess) cooked up this plan to find ourselves some nice, submissive, servant, arm candy for the launch party - someone to get our drinks and help us in general. I posted about it on CatalinaLoves.com. The first response I got was Hilarious. You must read it. Also, I didn’t post it but some guy sent a picture of his freakishly huge cock (note: the ad specifically says no cock shots).
Aside from that, nothing weird really happened — run of the mill day minus dinner out with M. I think I may actually take some time off and try to enjoy an evening at home. I know, right?! Weird.
October 24th, 2008 — BestSexBloggers.com, Blogs, M, NYC, Quid Pro Quo, Stuff and Things, Updates
Hooray for Supergirl and Postsecret!
I was amazingly productive today. I contacted several people about joining BestSexBloggers.com. One blogger, Mollena, has already gotten all set up! You’ll like what she has to say. It’s worth noting that four people recommeded her blog in one week. I’m waiting to hear back from the others, but I’ll keep my fingers crossed.
I sent out the official NYC Sex Bloggers Calendar Launch Party Press Release. Whew, huge task completed. Worth it though. We are already having a good response on the RSVP list on Facebook. Oh and get this - Tess, Diva, Rebecca and I are staying the night together. You can read about it on Tess’ blog. Yum Yum. Can I add that I am lucky to be Catalina? Meet me at the party :) It will be fun.
No dinner/drinks with M tomorrow night. Sad, but he is working on a deal this weekend and that’s just how it goes sometimes. Next week we won’t get together either because he’ll be in NYC for the marathon. I’ll be watching on tv - maybe I’ll catch a glimpse of him - hopefully not on a stretcher ;-)
I also heard from Cindy’s aunt who is trying to work on family genealogy and scan anything I have, newspaper clippings and such, from the crash. I’m going to dig that stuff out tomorrow and see what gaps I can fill in for them. They were really nice. I still haven’t heard from her son, but I’m holding out hope that his Dad gave him my message and that he gets in touch.
And so that’s about it. Anyone interested in being a volunteer minion for some little tasks?
::yawn:: it’s 1:17 and I have to get some sleep.
October 22nd, 2008 — Blogs, FetLife, Stuff and Things, Updates
I haven’t really been able to write for a couple of days because I accepted the position of team leader of the greeters at Fetlife. It’s a huge task - 35 greeters from all over the world acting as a cohesive team - that’s a challenge, but one I’m up for and I’m really honored, yet again, to work along side of John.
I’ve also been working on a few other side projects, press releases, promos, and such. I’m actually cutting down on the number of pro-domme sessions, photoshoots, and blogs that I’m working on. I’d safely say no thank you to seconds, right now. My plate is full. Give me a few hours and I’ll be hungry again :)
What I need is a minion and a sissy maid.
In case you didn’t hear, I got my new glasses. Spoiler alert: Tomorrow’s HNT on CatalinaLoves.com is my new glasses. Shhh…
So that’s about it. Kids, Cats, Clients, Fetlife, and Blogs. What do people do who have a life?
October 19th, 2008 — Audacia Ray, BestSexBloggers.com, Blogs, Fundraising, NYC, Press Releases, Recommendations, Shopping, Stuff and Things, Updates
Join us for the launch party and buy a copy of the NYC Sex Blogger 2009 Limited Edition Calendar on Friday, November 14, 2008 from 6:30 pm - 9:30pm at The White Rabbit (http://www.whiterabbitnyc.com).
Meet the bloggers who made it happen, and ask really nicely and you might even get your calendar signed. While admission to our party is FREE and open to the public, there will be a cash bar (with Happy Hour prices till 9PM), raffle tickets and calendars to purchase so please come prepared with some green to show your support and join in the fun.
Twelve of New York City’s most dynamic literary and sex positive women, along with photographer Stacie Joy, and the sex blogging CommUNITY have collaborated to create the New York City SexBlogger 2009 Limited Edition calendar in order to support Sex Work Awareness (http://www.sexwork101.com). Sex Work Awareness is an organization that trains sex workers in media skills and educates the public about issues that affect people who work in the sex industry. 12 of NYC’s finest writers, sex educators, film makers, and ordinary women are determined to see the stigma associated with sex work and workers removed.
Included in the calendar are Audacia Ray, Desiree, Diva, Elizabeth Wood, Jamye Waxman, Luz Alptraum, Mariella Ella, Rachel Kramer Bussel, Riese, Sinclair Sexsmith, Tess Danesi, and Twanna A. Hines. A full biography of each calendar model is available at http://sexbloggercalendar.wordpress.com/about.
The first 100 guests to arrive will receive a FREE gift bag from Babeland! Aside from amazing burlesque performers and organic orgasm-worthy cookies from FreeFoodsNYC, you can purchase your very own copy of the calendar. In addition, to supplement our fundraising efforts we will have a raffle, and we encourage you to buy a raffle tickets. $2 for 1, $5 for 3 and $10 for 10 will give you a chance to win prizes that include an Njoy Eleven, a Liberator Ramp, a Liberator Throe, a Rolling Toy Trunk from ForYourNymphomation, and a Museum Signed Print “Ally Bound” by Lochai. The list grows daily. A complete list will be posted on the calendar blog (http://www.sexbloggercalendar.wordpress.com).
If you are unable to attend the launch party, you can still buy your limited edition copy of the calendar directly through the Sex Blogger Calendar website or here on Catalina Says (look to the right).
About the NYC Sex Blogger 2009 Limited Edition Calendar:
For the latest news, a complete list of bios of each sex blogger featured in the calendar, our sponsors, and our CommUNITY of friends, please visit the Sex Blog Calendar Website.
October 18th, 2008 — Altered Aperture, BestSexBloggers.com, Blogs, Bondage, Claire Adams, Fetish, Fundraising, Madison Young, Movies, Ms Nikki Nefarious, Mz. Berlin, Photos, Recommendations, The Week In Kink
Trust Me... Does That Look Like A Girl Who Would Steer You Wrong?
Catalina’s Favorite Sex Blog Posts Of The Week! Thanks to Altered Aperture who makes me all pretty and then captures it on camera time and time again.
::psst… for more hot sex blog links go to Sugasm.com::
October 16th, 2008 — BestSexBloggers.com, Blogs, FetLife, M, Ms Nikki Nefarious, NYC, Quid Pro Quo, Recommendations, Reviews, Satine Phoenix, Stuff and Things, The Dude
If you are curious to see what I look like these days, I posted a picture of myself on BestSexBloggers.com today. Don’t be frightened, Dude, it doesn’t show any of my private parts, just the shadow of my lovely bum.
I had quite the experience at Wal-Mart today. I finally had to get my glasses replaced. If you aren’t aware of it, they are presently held together by a bungeeish cord that is kind of rainbow pattern, like a kid’s shoelace almost. Yes, it’s quite sexy. I tend to try to avoid wearing them in public, but since I can’t see much without them, that is difficult. I generally depend on M to order for me when we eat out, since I can’t see the menu. Besides, I like it that he orders for me. Yes, I’m a feminist damnit. I still like it when M orders for us both.
I digress… I was at Wal-Mart today to have an eye exam and get new glasses. Now I have to wait a week for them since I have coke bottle lens prescriptions that have to be special made. Um, did I mention I’m a nerd? So I went for the classic black, square frame, plastic frames. I think they’ll be perfect. Hey, at least The Dude will stop telling me that I look like a Mom who is about ready to do the 5k Fun Run.
Over on CatalinaLoves.com today you’ll find my latest rave about Liberator products. I wrote a review of the Fascinator Throe and it is a great product. The nice thing about reviewing for really great companies like Lelo.com and Liberator.com is that their products are so good it makes it unbelievably easy to write a review. All I have to do is open my mouth (metaphorically speaking) and out pours the praise. You just can’t go wrong with either company!
And that’s about it. I have to work on Fetlife projects the rest of the evening and then I’m going to watch some tv and go to bed. Tomorrow, Nikki is coming over to work with me on some projects I’m going to be handing off to her for Quid Pro Quo. As we grow, we need to grow, so Nikki is officially coming on board to work with Satine Phoenix. After that I’m going out for my regular Friday night in Uptown with M. Not sure where we’re going yet, but there isn’t a place he would choose that isn’t going to be fantastic. I kind of like that element of surprise actually, all I know is how to dress and to be there at 8pm. The rest is unknown.
27 Days Until I Arrive In NYC!! Mark your calendars for Nov. 14th so you can come to the launch party and say hi to me (and buy a calendar!)
October 15th, 2008 — Audacia Ray, Blogs, Email, Madison Young, Movies, NYC, Press Releases, Quid Pro Quo, Recommendations, Shopping, Stuff and Things, Websites
Life is moving at the speed of sound. Yesterday I spent a good portion of my day and evening working on a press release for the In The Flesh Reading Series Oral Sex Night and today I started on press releases for the NYC Sex Blogger 2009 Limited Edition Calendar Launch Party and Dacia’s Love Machine’s World Premiere at the Berlin Porn Film Festival. My favorite moment of the day happened when discussing the press release with Dacia, who owes me a quote for the final draft. I have to share the moment - it went something like this:
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is why I love Audacia Ray! Go to DaciasLoveMachine.com and download the film that will be screening at the film festival in Berlin. It’s the funniest movie and seriously, with everybody as tense as they are lately, we could use some ha ha’s. So throw down the $2.99 and download Dacia’s Love Machine and then be prepared to laugh your ass off. I love my job.
I was planning my trip to New York for the calendar launch party (November 14th, Meet Me There!!) and it kind of looks like this: Stay Thursday night with Tess, Friday night with Tess and Diva at the hotel, Saturday night at Dacia’s, and then have a leisurely breakfast before heading back home on Sunday. You should seriously pre-order your calendar if you are planning to buy one. They are limited and they are going to sell out, so if you’re planning to buy it, don’t let the grass grow under your feet (::hint hint::).
I was also planning my trip to see The Butterfly Temptress today. I was thinking that I would maybe take the Greyhound for the first time ever, like see it as an adventure and an opportunity to blog about something weird and new to me, Say Yes To It! I was all psyched, thinking it would cost like $50.00 to get to where I’m going, maybe $100. It was more than an airline ticket. What?! Holy Crap. Why do people take the Greyhound then? That is so baffling. So I looked up Amtrak, because I thought - train = adventure = Yes! No. Amtrak was almost twice that of an airline ticket. So why would anybody spend 18 hours on a train at twice the expense of a two hour flight? I don’t get it. For real. How do they stay in business? I’m so flexible with the dates that I can go to visit her that I think I will ultimately put in a $99.00 bid on Priceline and try to get a cheap ticket. Who knew? I’m shocked.
Changing topics (drastically): Madison Young is so unbelievable! If you are going to be in Minneapolis this weekend, you have to check out her reading at Smitten Kitten. I still have a movie of hers to review on CatalinaLoves.com and an interview to do with her! Don’t think I’ve forgotten, but in fact just really behind on my own content to do work for other people. As a good friend once taught me, “My work suffers so yours doesn’t.” Anyway, we were talking today about her press release and she said that she would send me an autographed copy of her limited addition Madison Young’s Erotic Breast Self Exam Posters. I can’t wait. I’ll frame it and hang it in my office/bedroom! At some point, I’ll have quite the erotic art collection. I think I have a good start! You can get your own, this is the good thing about reading my blog - see, I give you the inside scoop on where to go. Go to the Femina Potens Art Gallery and look at Store -> Art From Exhibits -> Present and then you can scroll down and see what I’m talking about and buy one for yourself!
Well, it’s 11:15 and for the first time today, even though we are both at home working, I’m going to spend some time with Marky. Buy a calendar, check out Madison’s appearance in Minneapolis and the Femina Potens Art Gallery, plan to meet me at the launch party on November 14th in NYC, and download Dacia’s Love Machine and watch it. You’ve got a lot on your to-do list now :-)
October 14th, 2008 — Advice, Affiliate Programs, BestSexBloggers.com, Blogs, Books, FetLife, NYC, Press Releases, Quid Pro Quo, Recommendations, Stuff and Things, Toys, Websites
Life is going by so quickly - how did it get to be the middle of October already? I haven’t had much time to do anything but work, which is a good thing! No complaints from me on that one. I am juggling a lot of projects, but project management is something I am very good at. Today I spent part of my day contacting professional dommes - you see I have this theory based on experience as a professional dominatrix - that finding good advertising is really difficult. Sure, you can pay some directory to list you with 50 other ladies offering the same thing you are or you can throw an ad up on Craigslist and hope for the least sleazy responses possible, or even just throw up a web page and hope someone finds you - or you could place an ad on Fetlife, target it towards men in your area, and BAM! You have a self-selected demographic of men interested in BDSM at your feet. So my goal has been to contact other professional dominatrices, dominas, dommes, ladies, and Goddesses and try to put the word out to them. There are sure a hell of a lot of us! It’s keeping me very busy.
Aside from that I’ve been working on Rachel Kramer Bussel’s press release for her Oral Sex Night at In The Flesh Erotic Reading Series in NYC - writing and formatting it was easy - sending it to hundreds of contacts individually one by one with an attachment takes time. PR hint: Don’t send out press releases as a batch or group - it will hit spam filters and then you’ve just wasted a good contact. If they are worth contacting, contact them individually. So I spent several hours working on that project.
Soon I’m going to start posting the Butterfly Temptress’ series on BestSexBloggers.com. I’ve alluded to it before it, directed people to it where it was originally posted (on EF’s blog) but EdenFantasys has really let a bunch of us down lately and it seems they have turned their back on her project, along with several other important projects. It’s a shame, they have really lost the respect of the blogger community after rescinding their offer to sponsor the printing of the NYC Sex Blogger Calendar project and then refusing to pay AAG for the hours she put in for them before they terminated her. I would be very careful in entering into any agreement with EdenFantasys. It is one affiliate program I would not recommend. If you’re looking for a good toy company, go with VibeReview.com.
I’m off now - I’m looking for a cheap ticket to visit Butterfly Temptress for a slumber party before going to NYC for the calendar launch party (did I mention I’m excited about going to NYC?!?!). Diva suggested looking at train prices, so I’m going to wrap it up and find a cheap way to get where I need to go.
October 11th, 2008 — Altered Aperture, Blogs, Fetish, Ms Nikki Nefarious, Photos, Recommendations, Sugasm
Image of Catalina by AlteredAperture.com (Rigging by Ms. Nikki Nefarious)
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #151? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom.
This Week’s Picks
Stolen Time
“The sigh of a kiss that has been too long waiting is a wicked rush.”
Keeping things hot when everything hurts
“While it’s not as fun for him, what I love about those times is how sexy he makes me feel at a time when I probably feel the most worthless as a lover.”
Like lovers do…
“As soon as I got that groove, he felt it. His body started to tense up and tremble.”
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank
Editor’s Choice
At What Point Have You Crossed The Line?
See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.
Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
Catalina loves Sgt. Major from Backdoor Bondage and Kink.com
Click Foreplay
The End of the Sex Writer?
Lust Objectified: Lelo’s Lily Vibe
Sex News Roundup
Sex Work
20 Questions With Janet Jacme
Busy Busy Busy
Erotic Writing and Experiences
Backward (One)
The Five Twenties - The Fifth Twenty
i Kissed a Girl
The love for guys in uniform
Natalie Gets Laid
A Night to Remember, ft. Mariella and VibeReview
Talk Dirty To Me
Will you suck it?
Your Gorgeous Polish Girlfriend Won’t Pose Just How You Imagined
NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Boymeat’s Boots
HNT: Lucky Heather 2
Kelly Zhang (Met Art)
Radka - OJ
Sex & Politics
Do BDSM and McCain Go Together Like Vinegar and Oil?
Invasion
BDSM & Fetish
3 days
Punished in the school gym
Sex Camp 2008: The Petting Zoo!
slut to the Mailbox ….. This Morning’s Task as Accomplished
Someplace I’ve never been, part 2
Sex Advice
Man-Handles: What to Do with His Nipples?
Sadie’s Advice for Craigslist Dating. Confession #151
Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Can Group Sex Get Your Man to Clean the House?
Channeling Jessica Rabbit
How I started paying for sex
Present Genitive
Seven Daily Sins: Lust
Trust
